the new ask meme: send me literally anything and ill tell you something i hate about it
Twist: conversely, I’ll have to also tell you one thing I like about it.
no. i want to do this meme in its original, pure form. only loathing
Oh! Oh! The closest I’ve ever gotten to actively anti-shipping something. I have a point to contibute on a broader level (although I recently rewatched the box episode and I agree it’s like, the grossest).
Lauren and Bo’s relationship makes me uncomfortable largely because Bo is someone who comes from an abusive background.
BO: Mom, I know that you thought the way you chose to raise me was right. I see that now. When you screamed and yelled at me like I was evil, it’s because you didn’t really understand who I was. Neither did I. We were both scared. […] If you really knew me now, you would be proud. I did good.
Bo is a person who badly needs validation, who needs to be supported and loved for the things she does well and forgiven when she falls short. Because of her need for validation she’ll give her all, and frequently does for Lauren: devotes all of her energy to making Lauren happy, even when it puts her at risk (ie promising to be monogamous to Lauren even though it meant starving herself). She won’t push back because she’s afraid of Lauren rejecting her. And the second that she isn’t the center of Bo’s attention she snaps in often emotionally manipulative ways
BO: I’m in the middle of something important.
LAUREN: Ooooh, what a surprise! You’re always in the middle of something and it’s always important. Bo, when is it my turn? I am always there for you […]
Lauren is self-focused, which is a totally understandable trait for someone who has had her life to have, but is so not what Bo needs in a romantic partner. And while I do think Lauren loves Bo, she clearly holds her up to a standard that isn’t fair for Bo, and constantly mocks her for not being as book-smart as she is.
BO: I have to say this whole doctor thing isn’t as hard as I thought it would be. Although I should probably crack a book or two.
LAUREN: Yeah, yeah… maybe I could help actually. You know we have the basics, Jung, Freud. And then of course there’s Masters and Johnson. You’ll also want to review Kinsey […]
BO: Oh I see. So you think I lack the intellectual whatchamacallit to pull off this fake doctor crap […]
LAUREN: I guess being a doctor would seem easy to somebody who never even finished high school!
Not even going to touch on the fact that “reviewing Kinsey” has a vaguely biphobic connotation - which a lot of Lauren’s interactions with Bo do, actually. She pulls this intellectual elitism again and again and again, constantly reminding Bo how intelligent she is and how comparatively unlearned Bo is.
When Lauren does break up with Bo, instead of being upfront about it and why she’s doing it (IE Bo kissed Tamsin and lied about it), she is obtuse about her point and invents an abstract reason for why she is breaking up with Bo.
usually i would be a lot more thorough wrt a question like this, but i’m not very coherent today. i think a very important thing to note is that lauren has seduced and slept with women under circumstances of very dubious and uninformed consent on more than one occasion (once, in the first season, on the ash’s orders, to keep bo distracted; again, more recently, when she slept with the morrigan–and those are two instances just off the top of my head). in general, though, her behavior towards bo is consistently…weird. she spends much of the second season mired in jealousy (occasionally even acting blatantly possessive of bo), but immediately resumes her relationship with nadia when she wakes from her coma.
on a similar note (re: jealousy and entitlement), i’m not fond of lauren and dyson’s habit of fighting over bo, and constantly trying to one-up each other based on the current status of their relationship with her (like, a lot of people feel favorably toward the opening scene of 4x08 when lauren and dyson are admiring bo as she washes the car, but the fact that both of them are doing so while bo is apparently oblivious strikes me, personally, as…very uncomfortable). in that same episode, lauren finds a box clearly addressed to bo, and admits that she not only kept it from bo, but also looked inside. then, she and dyson proceed to get rip-roaring drunk and debate whether or not they should tell her–an enormous breach of privacy on both of their parts (and a fairly telling illustration of just how much lauren trusts bo’s ability to make her own decisions, and acknowledges that she is an adult with her own autonomy), made further disturbing by the usual petty back-and-forth about who ~deserves bo
“well, as someone who knows bo beyond her rack size and underwear line…”
“i think the best course of action is caution, because although i love her you know she is sometimes a very sexy bull in a china shop.” (ew)
“i knew she was special. and trouble.” “no argument here!” (ew, ew)
“She was all like ‘I’m a killer! Get in my way and I’m gonna kill you! That’s what killers do!’ That’s right. And then I curbed her hunger and then she was like ‘maybe I’m okay, I’m not so bad.’ And I love her also, so I think that we should just throw the box in the fire. Voila.” (i know this is supposed to be comical, and that lauren isn’t in her right mind when she says it. but the fact that she is congratulating herself on the circumstances of their earlier sexual relationship when lauren seduced and lied to her to get her into bed is questionable at best. and even if their first sexual encounter hadn’t been a deplorable move on lauren’s part–even if she had, as she implies, ~fixed bo with her love~, that would not give her the right to appropriate bo’s belongings and lie to her about it. there are just a lot of really gross implications here, and i think they’re representative of lauren as a whole)
like, i could go on but trust me, their behavior is gross, and not limited to this particular episode; it’s a pattern that holds in their interactions with her and about her, particularly lauren’s. (see also: lauren completely dismissing bo’s attempts to communicate with her, and agreeing that she should be locked up ~for her own good in 3x06) the fact that kenzi finds the box toward the end of 4x08 and gives it to bo without a second thought distinguishes her as someone who respects bo’s right to privacy, and to choice–in stark contrast to dyson and lauren.
just…keep lauren away from bo (and especially evony) 2k14
LAUREN: I’m just, I’m so tired, Bo. These last few years with the fae, the garuda… and Nadia… I feel like I’m losing myself.
BO: Well I don’t want you to feel that way. I want you to feel amazing. I want you to feel the way I feel. The way I feel when I’m with you. You just — tell me what you need. Babe, I’ll do anything.
LAUREN: I am so sorry, Bo, but I think I’m always going to be asking from you more than you can give to me.
"You’re never going to be good enough" is the absolute most damaging thing Lauren could have said to Bo, given her background and her emotional needs, and if Lauren really knows Bo as well as she says she does she must have known this. She must have known the emotional impact it would have on Bo, and done it on purpose to drive a wedge between them to create the distance from the relationship she wanted without considering the repercussions it would have on Bo. This is unforgivably manipulative, self-centered, and awful and I hope to god she and Bo never get back together, because Bo deserves so much better.
one of my favorite things about the rivals-to-lovers trope is when one of them, at the beginning of their relationship, grumbles about how much they hate the other person’s awful face and i sort of cackle to myself like, oh man. you’re going to have it so bad. it’s going to be so great. you are going to love the CRAP out of that awful face. you’ll be composing delicious, pining, sappy sonnets about it. i love it.